Why Adult Children Step Back: Protection, Avoidance, and Sometimes Punishment
Some adult children step back because they grew up without safety or stability. Others pull away because no one in the family ever learned how to communicate clearly or hold healthy boundaries. But there is another side of estrangement that people rarely talk about. Sometimes the distance is less about protection and more about power. Some adult children use silence to punish, pressure, or control. They step back when a parent will not meet their expectations or provide the resources they feel entitled to. The result is a break that harms both people in the long run, leaving a relationship permanently damaged for reasons that could have been faced instead of weaponized.
The Myth of Reconciliation: Why Some Mother–Adult Child Estrangements Never Change
Time and life events rarely repair the distance between a mother and her adult child. This piece explores why most estrangements remain unchanged and how quiet acceptance can lead to clarity, even without reconciliation.
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