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These are conversations about what happens in families when love comes with conditions, and what it takes to stop accepting them. They cover childhood emotional neglect and parentification, estrangement from a mother and the grief that comes with it, and the difference between being liked and actually being known.
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Subscribe on YouTubeHow Do You Know If It Was Bad Enough?
If you were the responsible one, the easy one, the child who got parentified early, you've probably asked whether it was bad enough and never landed on an answer. There were no bruises, the bills got paid, the house looked fine from the street, and there's an ache you still can't explain to anyone. You don't have to prove it was severe before you're allowed to take it seriously.
When Your Estranged Mother Dies (Nobody Prepares You For This)
When an estranged mother dies, the grief is real, and almost nothing around you treats it that way. Your family decides within a day whether you're devastated or relieved, and nobody asks which one is true. On grieving an estranged parent, why the distance didn't make the loss easier, and why going to the funeral or staying home says nothing about your character.
Liked Isn't the Same as Known
You're the one they call, dependable and generous and easy to be around, and then your birthday comes and you make the reservation yourself. Being liked and being known usually arrive together, and for you they came apart a long time ago. On how that gap forms, and why the loneliness doesn't look like isolation from the outside.